Even though I have used sleeping medication in some of my bondage adventures, it is ALWAYS with friends I know and trust completely. And it is always using a prescription I have been given by a doctor using prescribed doses. This is not negotiable. What this guy did to me was very dangerous, because he had no idea how my body would have reacted. Yeah, it was probably the closest I’ll ever be to playing out my ultimate fantasy. But it just shouldn’t have happened.

Good luck in your own bondage adventures! Be safe, and I hope to hear more about your experiences

Even though I’m new to bondage, I only had 3 or 4 experiences, I must say I’m even more suspicious and paranoid than you are because every time, especially since I’m always the one who gets tied up, I never host the event in my own house, I don’t even take with me much money (only enough for the train tickets if the guy’s place is a little bit far from my home) and I don’t even take any I.D. or credit card with me, nothing that could indicate my real name or where I live.

And each time, before I go, I write a letter on my computer stating where the guy lives and why and when I go there and leave my computer on standby with the letter still on display.

That way if I’m gone missing, when any member of my family or even maybe the police will get to my computer, I may be dead but the cops will know where to find the guy. I write there all the information I got about him : his address, telephone number, everything. You’re never too careful.

And finally the more important rule I always follow, I never organize a bondage session the same day I have to go to work because I work for a military organization where punctuality is paramount so I always organize my bondage sessions immediately after work, on week-ends or when I’m on holiday only. A simple but wise decision, I’m sure you will now agree giving your bad experience.

But you’re right, even with all those precautions, I had one time a bad experience too. Nothing as serious as you of course but with a guy I met on line, we agreed after a few drinks in a well-known bar with a lot of people there that he could tied me up, gag me, and could undress me almost completely as long as he left me with my underwear on and take no pictures or try to film the event if my face is recognizable.

At our first meeting, he respected all those rules by the book but on our second “date”, he took advantage of the fact that I was tied and gagged only with my socks and underwear on and took away my underwear, touched my dick and even jerked me off while I was completely helpless and couldn’t do anything. He jerked me off so hard he even hurt me and the restrains were so tight that I had to tell him through my face expressions that my hands were starting to turn blue ! The fact is that an amateur in bondage can really hurt your body too if he ties you up too tight !

Suffice to say that when 3 months later when he contacted me again for another session, I never answered. Hopefully for me, the situation was not not that dramatic this time but to me, once you’ve broke my trust, you can never get it back !

So it’s very important to tell those things. So well done again. I wish there were more blogs like yours over the Internet.